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An article on personal growth and change for… skeptics.

Four factors of Personal GrowthWanting to grow means admitting your weaknesses.
Wanting to grow means leaving your backyard and putting your beliefs in doubt.
Wanting to grow means confronting and clashing with those who remain lower on the ladder of personal growth.

After all, thinking that personal growth is just a jumble of stupid things makes our “place on the ladder” more… comfortable. But is it possible that life is only a constant search for security and comfort? If you are not convinced either, these four factors will enable you to have a look at the panorama that you can see from the next rung up on the ladder.

1. Awareness. There is no growth without awareness. You cannot decide to climb until you realize that there is a ladder in front of you and you are at the lowest rung. To be aware of our positions, sometimes we have to stop and get off the high-speed train of our lives, and assess the situation. What did I dream of doing as a child? And is that what I am doing? Am I deciding my life or is it my life that is deciding? How is my physical health? Am I in shape? There are not extravagant techniques for becoming aware: stop, ask some questions and respond honestly. That’s it.

2. Change. If you have honestly answered your questions, probably now you will be aware of at least two or three aspects that are not going well in your life. Perhaps you should stop smoking, lose a bit of weight, or you want to learn to be more organized. For every aspect of your life you want to improve, to begin change you must decide to want to change, you must desire to want to change, you must be obsessed with the idea of change. When an oil rig catches fire, there is no alternative: you must escape, you must change… Quick! Create this sense of urgency in your life; make change the one walkable street. Do you want to stop smoking? Download photos of smokers’ lungs from the Internet, read books about stopping smoking, talk with an oncologist: fear and suffering are two motivators, not really new-agey ;-), but very effective.

3. Correction. Once you have created this sense of urgency in your life, the next step is correction. To begin correcting something not going well in your life, the one effective strategy is that of little steps. Experts of change management call it “Quick Wins”: to give the right rhythm to correction, you must identify small goals to reach quickly. Creating a chain of one goal after another, you will sustain high levels of motivation and make change… fun. If your next “rung” is reaching a healthy weight, fix on realistic goals and try to reach them in a fun way: buy a Wii Fit or go running with your friends. Also, if the term “correction” reminds you of those red marks from your teacher, remind yourself that improvement should not be suffering or sacrifice.

4. Growth. Being able to step up to the next rung should not be enough: the need to grow should be a constant in your life. Changing when things go badly is a necessity; changing when things go well is an opportunity.

Practical advice for finding daily motivation, improving your mood and enhancing your days.

We are born every morning. What we decide to do today counts more than anything else.The Buddha

Motivation Find it with a Simple ActHave you ever asked why some days you really do not manage to find motivation and everything seems to go awry? You find yourself blaming: the rain, the train/bus you miss at the last second, the red light, the b*****d boss (“bearded”, of course?! 😉 ), the teacher who is too demanding?!

And if I told you that in reality it all depends on only one act?

Why you are demotivated

In the past weeks I have noticed a drop in motivation: the days began on the wrong foot, and finished worse. Trying to understand the reasons at the root of this demotivation, I came to the conclusion that the principle cause was bound to one act alone. The act of which I am speaking is the first act that we do when we wake up. Every morning, in fact, we relive the famous scene from “Sliding Doors”:

Every morning we are offered two possibilities: we can decide to perform actions that screw up the day for us or actions that improve our day, priming us with motivation and a good mood.

Here are 10 examples of actions that, taken as soon as I wake, get the day start off to a bad start.

10 actions to begin the day badly:

  • Smoke a cigarette.
  • Immediately turn on your smartphone.
  • Check email/Facebook/Whatsapp.
  • Check the statistics on your blog. (Ehm…)
  • Say or think, “What a s****y day”. (No … the censored word is not “sunny”!)
  • Say or think, “I have not slept enough.”
  • Stay in bed “just another five minutes”.
  • Get up at the last minute.
  • Go out without having breakfast.

__________________ (Insert: your day-destroying gesture).

Do you do at least one of these 10 things? Do you think that they are not really serious? Are you sure that there are other real causes of your off-kilter days and your lack of motivation? Perhaps… but try to replace one of those gestures with one of the 10 actions from the next list and I bet that you will change your mind.

10 actions to begin the day well:

  • Have a good breakfast.
  • Read a book or the latest article from a motivation blog. (Ok ok! I said no computer!… You could always print it out the evening before. )
  • Go for a run.
  • Wake up like Dicky Fox.
  • Listen to music or a motivational audiobook.
  • Meditate for a few minutes.
  • Make love. (I know that loving yourself is important, but in this case not useful!)
  • Take care of your appearance.
  • Visualize and focus on your objectives for five minutes.
  • Dedicate half an hour to something you really care about (a personal goal, a hobby, etc…).

For me, by substituting one of the first list of gestures with a new habit, I have radically changed my days, giving myself energy, motivation and a good mood.

Ok, ok… perhaps I’m caught up in my enthusiasm, but these are the collateral effects of my new morning habit: a coffee for anyone who can guess what it is in the comments!

A 21-day program to change your life, and organize your space and ideas.

Do you also find that during the first months of the year you are sizzling with energy? To make the most of this energy, I propose a 21-day program for putting your life in order, through small practical actions that you perform day after day.

Assertiveness is one of the key characteristics of successful people. in this article find out what it is and how you can develop it to earn the respect of others.

Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you’re a man, you take it.Malcom X.

6 easy ways to learn how to build sincere and genuine relationships, please people and win friends.

6 tips to be more likeableKnowing how to develop good relationships with others is extremely important in both our private life and in the workplace.
This is not about being a suck-up, but instead it is about establishing sincere relationships that allow us to work more effectively and to let others appreciate our value more.

By constantly focusing on the hope of a better future, we forget those little pleasures that can make us happy now.

Here is a list of simple things that can bring you a bit more happiness in your life:

10 practical and immediate actions to battle your lack of motivation and achieve your goals.

Lack of motivation 10 actions to fight itAlways being motivated to achieve an objective is not easy. Some days we simply like to lie on the couch in front of TV.

In this article we will discuss 10 practical and immediate actions to fight your lack of motivation and achieve your goals.

Why excessive ambition is not good for youThere is no harm in having ambitions; it’s being too competitive that can cause problems because you always want to excel and you get distracted from your real interests.