Wanting to grow means admitting your weaknesses.
Wanting to grow means leaving your backyard and putting your beliefs in doubt.
Wanting to grow means confronting and clashing with those who remain lower on the ladder of personal growth.
After all, thinking that personal growth is just a jumble of stupid things makes our “place on the ladder” more… comfortable. But is it possible that life is only a constant search for security and comfort? If you are not convinced either, these four factors will enable you to have a look at the panorama that you can see from the next rung up on the ladder.
1. Awareness. There is no growth without awareness. You cannot decide to climb until you realize that there is a ladder in front of you and you are at the lowest rung. To be aware of our positions, sometimes we have to stop and get off the high-speed train of our lives, and assess the situation. What did I dream of doing as a child? And is that what I am doing? Am I deciding my life or is it my life that is deciding? How is my physical health? Am I in shape? There are not extravagant techniques for becoming aware: stop, ask some questions and respond honestly. That’s it.
2. Change. If you have honestly answered your questions, probably now you will be aware of at least two or three aspects that are not going well in your life. Perhaps you should stop smoking, lose a bit of weight, or you want to learn to be more organized. For every aspect of your life you want to improve, to begin change you must decide to want to change, you must desire to want to change, you must be obsessed with the idea of change. When an oil rig catches fire, there is no alternative: you must escape, you must change… Quick! Create this sense of urgency in your life; make change the one walkable street. Do you want to stop smoking? Download photos of smokers’ lungs from the Internet, read books about stopping smoking, talk with an oncologist: fear and suffering are two motivators, not really new-agey ;-), but very effective.
3. Correction. Once you have created this sense of urgency in your life, the next step is correction. To begin correcting something not going well in your life, the one effective strategy is that of little steps. Experts of change management call it “Quick Wins”: to give the right rhythm to correction, you must identify small goals to reach quickly. Creating a chain of one goal after another, you will sustain high levels of motivation and make change… fun. If your next “rung” is reaching a healthy weight, fix on realistic goals and try to reach them in a fun way: buy a Wii Fit or go running with your friends. Also, if the term “correction” reminds you of those red marks from your teacher, remind yourself that improvement should not be suffering or sacrifice.
4. Growth. Being able to step up to the next rung should not be enough: the need to grow should be a constant in your life. Changing when things go badly is a necessity; changing when things go well is an opportunity.
Have you ever asked why some days you really do not manage to find motivation and everything seems to go awry? You find yourself blaming: the rain, the train/bus you miss at the last second, the red light, the b*****d boss (“bearded”, of course?! 😉 ), the teacher who is too demanding?!
And if I told you that in reality it all depends on only one act?
Why you are demotivated
In the past weeks I have noticed a drop in motivation: the days began on the wrong foot, and finished worse. Trying to understand the reasons at the root of this demotivation, I came to the conclusion that the principle cause was bound to one act alone. The act of which I am speaking is the first act that we do when we wake up. Every morning, in fact, we relive the famous scene from “Sliding Doors”:
Every morning we are offered two possibilities: we can decide to perform actions that screw up the day for us or actions that improve our day, priming us with motivation and a good mood.
Here are 10 examples of actions that, taken as soon as I wake, get the day start off to a bad start.
10 actions to begin the day badly:
__________________ (Insert: your day-destroying gesture).
Do you do at least one of these 10 things? Do you think that they are not really serious? Are you sure that there are other real causes of your off-kilter days and your lack of motivation? Perhaps… but try to replace one of those gestures with one of the 10 actions from the next list and I bet that you will change your mind.
10 actions to begin the day well:
For me, by substituting one of the first list of gestures with a new habit, I have radically changed my days, giving myself energy, motivation and a good mood.
Ok, ok… perhaps I’m caught up in my enthusiasm, but these are the collateral effects of my new morning habit: a coffee for anyone who can guess what it is in the comments!
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